The Need For Forgiveness
Wednesday, September 3rd, 2008I came back from the Wayne Association Bible Study on Philip Yancey’s book, What’s So Amazing About Grace?, really thinking a lot about forgiveness. In the book and at teh study we discussed the need to forgive so that it breaks the cycle. In a class I took, the professor had four people stand up and pretend to be one of the characters in the Good Samaritan story. I was the robber and what we had to do was just have a talk with each other. Well as we got rolling I blamed the victim for walking alone, others blamed me for beating him up, and the cycle went around and around for about 15 minutes when the professor said, now who is going to accept the blame. Of course each one of us wanted to win. We didn’t want to look weak. We didn’t want to take responsibility for our actions. Finally the professor said, “You have just proved why churches and marriages and relationships split. No one is able to say I’m sorry and claim their part of the blame.”
We think of forgiveness as a weak act, but as Yancey says, it actually is an act that comes unnatural. We aren’t born being able to forgive. We are born with a system of right and wrong, a system of fairness. We want what is rightfully ours and if you take away my happiness, then you owe me and I’m going to make you pay because that is only fair. An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth. That is the system we grow up in and are taught from day one, but you see it is easy to judge and blame others. It is easy to hold a grudge, but it is entirely much harder to forgive and forget.
Weakness is shown in the person who cannot forgive. Weakness is shown in the person who has to fight for his prideful identity. You see as Christians, we don’t fight for any identity. We have an identity in Jesus that was paid for by Christ and can never be taken away. And the price Jesus paid was not only for our sin, but for the sin of our neighbor, the sin of the person who wronged us, who hurt us and abused us. Jesus paid for their sin too and all the sins that caused them to become who they are today, who we are today.
Holding onto unforgiveness does not lead to happiness. It leads to a life of resentment and revenge. It leads to a life that is suddenly controlled by the person you need to forgive. Take some time right now and search your heart on what you need to be forgiven for or who you may need to forgive and ask God to help you. Forgiveness can be a hard road to travel, but it always leads to freedom. Forgiveness is not a weak action, but one that truly shows our strength in knowing who God made us to be, who we are, his children!


